Cameron Diaz is dead…wrong

On May 4, actress Cameron Diaz, in effect, announced: “Marriage is dead”.

When asked if she thought marriage was a dying institution, Diaz, said, “I do. I think we have to make our own rules. I don’t think we should live our lives in relationships based off of old traditions that don’t suit our world any longer.

I have a few questions about this assessment:

Why would someone who has experienced several failed relationships think that she knows anything about committed relationships?

Why would anyone allow Ms. Diaz to have influence in their life?

More importantly, where do we think that this type of thinking is going to take us?

I would suggest that Cameron is dead wrong. She knows nothing about what suits our world. She can go ahead and make her own rules but the results are going to be really bad.

This Sunday, I am preaching the third part of Indispensable Relationships at Cross Community.  I hope you can join us.


going to the Atl.

On Thursday and Friday, Rich (my nephew, our Missional Pastor and my buddy) and I will be in Atlanta for the Engage Conference. This is a great gathering of progressive church leaders in our tribe (Church of God). I attended last year and enjoyed myself – but this year, we are going as a vendor.  Let me explain…

International Orphan Support is a non-profit organization that we started to help address the needs of poor children around the world. At the Engage Conference, we will have an information booth set up to share the news about what we do, to solicit some involvement by conference attendees and to just spread some passion for helping orphans.

Millions of kids around the world do not have parents; they have no food, no access to clean water or healthcare. They sleep on the streets, they are abused in horrible ways and they have a very brief life-expectancy. While we can’t help all of these children, if we will each give a little, we can take care of some of these kids. So International Orphan Support makes it simple: just get involved – in a big way or a small way.

Tax-deductible donations may be made through our secure website. Every dime that you give will go directly to take care of children. We know these kids, we go to visit them and we take them what they need.

If you are in Atlanta next week, stop by to see us (we’ve got lots of freebies to give away). If you’re not coming to Engage, please consider a donation. Check out our website: Like our facebook page: Follow us on Twitter:

International Orphan Support: Giving Hope to Orphans Worldwide!   

a tribute

This Mother’s Day includes lots of emotions for me and my family. Our daughter, Jessica is a mom for the first time. Sophia, born on 4.22.11, remains in NICU, but thankfully is progressing. This whole experience has been a huge blessing but has also pushed us in significant ways.

Letha and I are now expected to pray like grandparents. That is a different level of prayer for us. And being put in that position causes me to really miss Letha’s mother, Mary Haynes. Mary passed away in January of 2009. She was an absolute prayer warrior. For years, the entire family counted on her to shoulder the load of praying for us and our kids. I can’t tell you how many times we called her, sometimes in the middle of the night, to pray for a sick kid. And she always did.

Mary is in heaven so now we have to step up and be able to cover the family. I feel the change in responsibility. I can’t measure up to the standard that Mary set for prayer. We miss her. But we have to accept the responsibility.

I do want to say Happy Mother’s Day to my wife, Letha, to my daughter, Jessica, to my mom, Fran. I love you all and thank God for you!

Happy Mother’s Day to all the moms out there!


Today is National Day of Prayer. Seems to me that every day should be National Day of Prayer.

Today in my prayer I am…

thanking God for saving the lives of Jessica and Sophia.

thanking God for the forgiveness of my sin.

thanking God for my family, my church, my country.

worshipping God for His faithfulness and love.

asking God for His wisdom, guidance, provision and blessing.

humbled by the fact that I know He’s listening and responding.

“Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.” – Philippians 4:6-7

what I learned about church during our crisis

When we were in the heat of the fight for the lives of our daughter and granddaughter last week, I came to some fresh realizations and appreciations about my relationship with the church of Christ. When we were told by the doctor that the health of the baby was compromised and that Jessica was in great danger, I did not have time to make the decision to become a part of a church. There was no chance to introduce myself and get to know a pastor. I had to act fast.

All I knew is that we were in trouble and we needed people to pray for us. So I sent out a text to some close friends.

Here is what  I texted:

Jessica is having an emergency C Section at 34 weeks. Thank God they are here visiting us. Thx for praying!

We put basically the same thing on facebook. That’s all it took, the news spread. Upon receiving my text, people started praying. Our church and churches all over got the word. People prayed and it worked. We got our miracle!

Here are some things I realized – reasons why I am very glad to be an active and involved part of the body of Christ:

I am known: I don’t have to introduce myself when crisis strikes – they already know me and I know them.

I am trusted: people offer help when I haven’t even asked.

I am covered: God tells others to pray for me even when they don’t know details.

I am supported: my relationship carries us into the future.

I am never alone: they are there for me.

I am needed: people count on me when they need help.

On a regular basis, I am contacted by people who are in serious need but I don’t know them. They are not part of our church. I have no relationship with them and therefore have no clue of what is best.  Of course I can pray for a stranger. But it is very much different when I am in close relationship with someone who is a part of my faith family.

It is heartbreaking to try to help someone who is a total stranger. It is especially tough when they are in crisis and they are talking, desperately, to a stranger.

Here’s the big idea: don’t wait until you’re in crisis before you become a part of a church. If you do, they will not be able to help you to the extent that you need.

I need my church family! And so do you.