think layers

Our relationship with God is designed to grow. We are in a building process. We should not have to start from scratch every day. This requires consistency to the process and loyalty to God.

It helps to consider your life with God as a wall that is being built. Good materials, the right tools and sound construction principles are required, if your wall is to stand.

I love the way Peter states it: “Add to…”

2 Peter 1

5b “make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; 6 and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; 7 and to godliness, mutual affection; and to mutual affection, love. 8 For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ.” (TNIV)

He is saying that if we have faith but stop there, we will fail. If we add goodness and knowledge but leave out self-control, our wall will fall.  Get the concept?

Think layers. Keep “adding to”.

Here are few challenging questions for you to consider and answer if you like:

Is your relationship with God stronger today than it was last year at this time? How about last week?

Which of the 8 elements listed above may you be lacking?  How may you add that element(s)?

What layer do you plan to “add” today? How will you do that?

Verse 8 explains that, if we layer these items in our lives, we will be effective and productive.

Now read verse 9: “But if any of you do not have them, you are nearsighted and blind, and you have forgotten that you have been cleansed from your past sins.”

That explains why so many of us struggle – we are making no spiritual progress!

Think layers!

critics are a dime a dozen

Today’s post is a bit of a rant. Allow me to vent, just a little.

Again today, I saw some shining examples of people who get a kick out of shooting holes in the efforts of others who are doing God’s work. There seems to be a steady supply of “experts” whose sole purpose is to expose what others are doing wrong. I will use this as my format to request that unless you are doing something better than what someone else is doing, please leave them alone.

No, I didn’t get criticized today. But some good friends and organizations that I support did. Our efforts to reach the lost and minister to the hurting will ALWAYS be met with criticism. It happened to Jesus, I suppose we should be honored when it happens to us. But we don’t feel honored – we feel frustrated! My experience is, those who are always telling me a better way of fulfilling the mission of Jesus, do nothing to fulfill the mission themselves.

Here are some over-generalized statements on how I feel: Armchair quarterbacks are all talk and no action. People who tell guitar players they are too loud, can’t play one song. Those who tell preachers their theological mistakes don’t have the guts to preach even one message. Those who criticize the efforts of missionaries to spread the love of Jesus are too lazy to lift a finger for the Gospel’s sake. I know several who qualify for the above generalizations!

Elbert Hubbard said, “To escape criticism: do nothing, say nothing, be nothing.” Kind of like our critics, huh?

I love how Jesus responded to the Pharisees when they criticized Him for healing the sick on the Sabbath.  He simply ignored them and got on with the healing. Awesome!

Anyone interested in personal and spiritual growth understands and embraces the value of constructive criticism. We all need that. But none of us need the aggravation that comes from perpetually negative critique.

Friends, don’t let some naysayer discourage you. Do what God tells you. And forget the knuckleheads who are doing nothing.

Ok, thanks for letting me get that off my chest. Oh, and if you disagree with me on this, keep it to yourself. We are too busy doing God’s work to care what you think! 🙂

she’s running!

I am still kind of in shock and very proud that my wife Letha has accepted the challenge to run a 5K. If you know her, you know that her passion to help orphans is one of only a very few things that could motivate her to run in a race. If you know her (and me), you are also aware that the only time she runs is when she’s chasing me.

Here’s the deal, our non-profit organization to help needy children, International Orphan Support, is sponsoring a huge run/walk event on May 12, the day before Mother’s Day. The Run For Love 5K is a big event: a certified course which has never been run before, accu-chip timing for those serious runners, awards given to various competitors, corporate race sponsors … this is the real deal. But it’s also a friendly, family oriented event where people can come just to stroll the 5K  (3.1 miles) course through beautiful woods, trails, across a wooden bridge and under a canopy of true old South Florida trees.

I am asking you to do one of three things. Please consider:

1. Sponsoring my wife as she runs. The fundraising website we are using and her link is: crowdrise.com 

2. Participate by running or walking. If you live in the Palm Beach County area, you’ll love this location. The race registration site is active.com

3. Pass this info along to your friends on facebook, Twitter, Google+ and even to people you talk to.

All proceeds go to homes that minister to orphans in third-world countries. For details about International Orphan Support and our work with children, please go to our newly designed website at iorphan.cc.

Thanks y’all! Let’s get this thing done for the kids!

kony 2012

This is a lengthy video, longer than anything I’ve ever posted. But the issue is so vital, I really hope you will watch and join Kony 2012!

sound bytes from sunday

I began a new message series yesterday. Pastors who utilize series hope and pray for a strong 1st message. In many cases, the success of the remainder of the series is dictated by the first message. Our first week of Backbone: The Courage of Daniel had mixed reviews. Actually, only one of our 3 Sunday gatherings left me with a less-than satisfied feeling about the message. So I thought I would offer a few sound bytes. Even as I type them now, they sound much better than when I delivered them yesterday during our 11:00 gathering.

Keep in mind, I was speaking about Daniel and applying the characteristics displayed in his life to our lives. Let’s see what you think:

A lot of people want courage, but nobody wants to be in a spot where they really need it!

Like grace, courage is given to us by God, on an as-needed basis. You won’t need it/get it sitting on your couch.

Conformers blend in; they don’t rock the boat. Transformers receive opposition. If you want to be left alone, do nothing. People won’t bother you. But if you live with passion, if you are continually looking to improve the world, you will be the target of a lot of attention, some of it negative.

Our theology (what we believe about God) dictates our behavior. Others can determine our theology by how we live. What we think about God is reflected in how we treat others and how we face crisis.

Backbone based on our opinion becomes stubbornness and rigidity. Backbone based on the character of God is courage.

The weapons you bring to battle today are the weapons you’re fighting with. Preparation needed to be done yesterday.

Preparation can’t be retroactive.  You can’t pray today that God will change yesterday. If you want God’s favor tomorrow, you must prepare yourself today. If you don’t prepare today, you won’t be courageous tomorrow.

If you have any interest in listening to the message, you can do so on our website here: Cross Community Church

Preparing and praying for a better week 2 next Sunday!

devision tears us apart

I know I spelled it wrong, but I think this alternative spelling better describes what happens when we divide: our vision is lost.

I hate church splits. I hate political splits. I hate family splints. The only kind of splits I like are banana.

“A house divided against itself” has been attributed to Abraham Lincoln, but Jesus said it first (Mark 3:25). No matter how many times it is stated, its truth remains. Divide and you die.

One of the things I dislike the most about this time of year is the elections. It gets so old listening to candidates rip one another, with no constraints. It is such a joke that, during the primaries, people in the same party can be so absolutely hateful to one another, can assassinate one another’s character and then once the general elections come around, they team up to hate on the guy from the other party. No wonder no one believes the incessant commercials.

I think irreparable damage is done when Christian leaders debate one another in a public forum over doctrine or methodology. Seriously, who wins when a couple of opposing rival pastors squabble over predestination or worship music style? I tell you who wins – the devil. Once again, no wonder people don’t believe us when we try to share the love of God with them. We can’t even share it with each other. Our vision to win the world to Christ is lost.

Too many local churches are divided. That is why they won’t succeed.

In a recent message at Cross Community Church, missionary Jonathan Augustine gave us a prophetic word from God: “There is absolutely nothing that can stop this church from reaching this community for Christ IF YOU ARE ONE.” The Word hit me like a ton of bricks. Lack of resources can’t stop us; lack of time can’t stop us. The only thing that can stop us is lack of unity.

I agree, there are some things that we just can’t tolerate.  Not everything goes. But my observation is, way too much unnecessarily divides us.

I say to fellow Christ-followers, we are better united than we are divided. I say there is more that unites us than divides us. And I remind you, Jesus told us that we would be identified as Christians by our love for one another (John 13:35).

In the words of the vintage classic rock band, Thunderclap Newman, “We have got to get it together now.”

backbone

While I don’t always like to use my blog for advertisement for upcoming church events, we really want to get the word out about this.

On Sunday, March 4 at Cross Community Church, I will be starting a series entitled, Backbone: The Courage of Daniel.

Backbone is defined as: courage, boldness, bravery, determination or fearlessness.  In down-to-earth terms, it means “guts”. Daniel was one of the gutsier guys I’ve ever heard of.  He stood his ground, defended his convictions even when faced with a life-sentence. Honestly, I wonder if I would have the courage to do the same.

Hopefully Daniel will inspire us to be strong and courageous. If you’re in our area (Palm Beach County, Florida), we’d be honored if you would join us for an upcoming service. If you’re not in the area, you can check us out online.

Backbone begins on March 4!

40 Days to New Life!

We are starting our preparations for Easter 2012. Rather than a traditional Lent season, we are opting for a more liberating “4o Days to New Life!” Features of this journey are prayer, Bible reading, serving, fasting and inviting (friends to Easter services).

We are excited that so far, 13 other churches have picked up on the information that our Cross Community Church staff developed and they plan to utilize the material in their Easter season preparations.

If you would like the details or would like to participate, check out our information page by clicking here.

It all begins on Monday, February 27! Don’t miss it!

persevere

Talent is very important. You have to be good at something, better than most other people, in order to succeed in life.

Everybody needs a break, a stroke of good luck or opportunity to prove their value.

A support system: family, friends, people who believe in you are necessary in order to make it through.

All of these things are vital if you plan to succeed.

But above all of these things, in my opinion, the number one thing you have to have on your side in order to make it is:

PERSEVERANCE!

A dictionary definition of persevere is: “to persist in anything undertaken; maintain a purpose in spite of difficulty, obstacles, or discouragement; continue steadfastly.” Good one.

You must absolutely refuse to give up, no matter how tough it gets, no matter who is against you, no matter how tired you become. You have to be like a bulldog, once you sink your teeth into that steak, refuse to let go. You won’t be deterred, distracted or dissuaded.  Lack of results? Adjust. Competition is winning? Work harder. Your friends think you’re crazy? Get new friends. But do not quit!

I can’t promise you that you will win. I won’t lie and say that in time, you’ll come out on top every time. But one thing I know for sure: at the end of the day, if you persevere, you will be able to hold your head up, knowing that you did not wimp out. You may not make the most money or acquire the most notoriety, but no one will be able to outlast you. My childhood pastor used to say, “when you come to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on!”

So let’s not allow ourselves to get fatigued doing good. At the right time we will harvest a good crop if we don’t give up, or quit.” Galatians 6:9 (MSG)

guest post

The following is a paper written for and presented at the Cooper City Church of God Missions Conference on February 7, 2012.  I was encouraged by it, I hope you are too.

“Kingdom Citizenship: Where you are coming from and where you are headed.”

Jessica Hanson, Director, Casa Shalom Orphanage

Cooper City Church of God Missions Conference 2012

 

We’ve come from all over the world to be here today. We’ve come from Africa. We’ve come from Europe. We’ve come from North America, Central America and South America. We’ve come from Asia. We’ve come together to spend a few days in fellowship, worship and training to return to our adopted countries to minister more effectively to people that we’ve come to love and respect.  Where we come from, both our countries of birth and as missionaries in our adopted countries, greatly affects where we are today and of course where we are going in the future.  As missionaries, evangelists and leaders, we cannot separate our past from our present from our future.  Today I’m going to share with you from the theme of “Kingdom Citizenship: Where you are coming from and where you are headed to.”  I hope to be able to share with you a little about where our ministry has taken us, where we are, and what we hope it will be in the future.

As missionaries and Christians, where do we come from? I don’t just mean a physical location like a city or country or continent.  I mean spiritually.  What is our spiritual history and heritage? We know that as humans, our innate sinful nature prevented us from communing with God like He intended.  Our pre-Christ past was therefore characterized by despair, sin, and separation from God.  Romans 3:23 says, “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.”

Before we came to Christ, we were slaves to our sinful and selfish natures and rejected God’s offer of redemption.  But thank God He provided a way out of this bondage!  By sending His only son to die for us, He allowed us to leave behind our lives of darkness and despair, and adopted us as His own!  Romans 8:15 says, “The Spirit you received does not make you slaves, so that you live in fear again; rather, the Spirit you received brought about your adoption to sonship. And by him we cry Abba, Father.”

What an amazing concept adoption is.  My husband and I serve as the Directors of the Casa Shalom Orphanage in Guatemala.  I want to share with you the story of a group of eight siblings by the name of Mejia Lux that we took in January of 2011.  The children, who you see in the photo above, came to the orphanage after their parents abandoned them. They simply didn’t want the responsibility of raising eight children, and they left them. The oldest child, Maria, 12-years-old, was trying to take care of her younger brothers and sisters all by herself even though she’s still a child.  The boys, ages six, seven and eight, were working in the local coffee fields picking 100 pounds a day, instead of attending school, to try to provide for the family.  When the children came to Casa Shalom, none of them had ever attended school or been to a doctor, they were filthy, barefoot, lice-ridden and starving.  They were little more than slaves and had no future.  They remind me so much of us before we came to Christ. They were doomed to a live of poverty and hopelessness! But God brought them to our orphanage, and even though we cannot legally adopt them, they and all the other children that call the orphanage home have been adopted into the wonderful Casa Shalom family and the family of God!

I wasn’t asked to speak about our present, but I don’t think I can discuss where we’ve come from or where we’re headed without talking about where we are right now.  Like the Mejia Lux children coming out of extreme poverty, we came out of extreme despair and hopeless when we came to Christ.  God’s plan isn’t for us to stay in a state of separation from Him! That’s why He sent His Son to reconcile us to Him and to bridge that gap of sin that separates us from God.  When God adopted us as His sons and daughters, we gained full privileges and rights in His kingdom.  We don’t have to live in fear like slaves anymore because we’re the precious children of the Father and citizens of His kingdom. Philippians 3:20 – 21 states, “But our citizenship is in heaven. And we eagerly await a Savior from there, the Lord Jesus Christ, who, by the power that enables him to bring everything under his control, will transform our lowly bodies so that they will be like his glorious body.”  In this verse, we are reminded that we are not citizens of this country, or our adopted countries, or even of this world.  Our present is characterized the belonging to the wonderful family of God.

It is logical to assume that we can’t get from yesterday to tomorrow without today.  What we did yesterday directly affects today, and what we do today directly affects tomorrow.  Today is the connecting point between our past and our future!  Thus, we cannot underestimate the importance of our actions and attitudes today.  The Old Testament story of Moses clearly illustrates the connection between the past, the present and the future and how you can’t have one without the others.  At the beginning of Exodus, the Israelites find themselves enslaved in Egypt.  Exodus chapter 1, verses 12 – 14 say, “So the Egyptians came to dread the Israelites and worked them ruthlessly. They made their lives bitter with harsh labor in brick and mortar and all kinds of work in the fields; in all their harsh labor they worked them ruthlessly.” In the enslaved Egyptians, we can see mirrored our lives before surrendering to Christ and becoming God’s sons and daughters.  Like the Israelites, our past is one of slavery and bondage.  But like God didn’t leave the Israelites in slavery forever; through Moses, he provided a way out of slavery and into the Promised Lands, where they could live as his children in peace and freedom.

We all know that God’s chosen people didn’t have any easy transition from slavery to the Promised Land. We know that in between leaving slavery behind and entering their future in the Promised Land, the Israelites wandered in the desert for 40 years.  There was no HOV lane, no fast-track from slavery to the Promised Land, just 40 years of trials, hardship and opportunities to grow and stretch.  The Israelite’s “present” wasn’t exactly what they’d had in mind when they left Egypt.  In Exodus 14: 11- 12, they said to Moses, “Was it because there were no graves in Egypt that you brought us to the desert to die? What have you done by bringing us out of Egypt? Didn’t we say to you in Egypt, ‘Leave us alone’ let us serve the Egyptians’?  It would have been better for us to serve the Egyptians than to die in the desert.”  And in chapter 17, verse 3, they said, “Why did you bring us out of Egypt to make us and our children and our livestock die of thirst?” Nearly once per chapter throughout Exodus, the children of Israel grumbled against Moses and questioned his reasoning in leading them out of slavery.

Yet we see in Exodus that God never abandoned his children in the desert. Conditions may not have been as comfortable or pleasant as they would have liked, but God never removed his hand from them.  We see so many examples of him providing extraordinary gifts for his children, like manna from heaven, shoes that did not wear out,  and water from supernatural sources (Exodus 16:4, Deuteronomy 29:5, Exodus 17:6).

Sometimes, in our “present” we feel like we’re in a desert. Conditions are unpleasant or seemingly unbearable and we feel abandoned.  But during these times in when we need to watch for the miracles that God does to carry us through to our future “Promised Land.”  We recently experienced such a miracle in our ministry in Guatemala. We’ve recently been going through a “desert” time with opposition from staff members, financial challenges with our personal budget and just day-to-day ministry to 20-plus teenagers! In November, one of the youngest children at the orphanage, Magdalena, age 2, nearly severed her finger in a door hinge at the orphanage.  She and her twin sister are the youngest of the Mejia Lux siblings.  We rushed Magdalena to the hospital and the doctors told us that they could do nothing for her but remove the part of the finger that had been severed – they couldn’t repair the bone or the blood vessels and that without the blood vessels, the tissue would die.

We weren’t ready to accept that answer, so we took her to another hospital, where they told us basically the same thing.  The only other option they could offer us was reattaching the skin of her finger. So that’s what they did. They sewed the thumb back on, but did nothing to the blood vessels or bone.  Magdalena was admitted into the hospital where she was supposed to wait for 3 days before the doctors could remove the severed appendage.   We began to pray in faith that God would heal Magdalena’s thumb and spare her the pain of growing up without this important finger.  The next day, we visited Magdalena in the hospital and asked how her finger felt. She held up her hand, which was enclosed in an open-ended cast, wiggled her thumb and said, “fine!”  She was supposed to lose the entire thumb, but God performed a miracle and Magdalena’s thumb has recovered completely.  God repaired the bone and the blood vessels when Guatemala’s doctors weren’t able to.   She doesn’t even have a scar.  God has used this miracle to bring glory to himself.  And we have clung to miracles like this one as God showing us his favor and provision as we minister.

As the body of Christ, where are we headed to?  God has given us the hope of the Promised Land at the end of this life.  It is our duty as believers, as missionaries to bring as many people as we can from slavery, through the desert, into the Promised Land.  That is why we leave our countries, our families, our homes and our cultures to minister to people around the world, in the next city or sometimes next door.  Pastor Bill Hybels has said many times that the job of every leader is to take people “from here (where they are) to there (where God wants them to be).”  Our job as missionaries, pastors, evangelists and believers is to lead people in our God-given mission field from their past, their “here,” through their present, into their future, or “there.”  As citizens of the Kingdom of God, our role is to bring as many people as possible with us!  This is what compels us to do what we do.

I’d like to close with an update on the Mejia Lux children.  While we’re under no illusion that the children have “arrived” and need no further healing or help, we believe that a great work has already been done in their lives.  All 8 children have changed dramatically, physically and mentally. The oldest four are attending school and all are receiving medical care. They’ve come back from the brink of starvation to be happy, healthy and well.  The oldest three children have accepted Christ into their hearts.  We are so grateful that the Lord has chosen us to help bring these precious children from slavery, through the desert, and into the Kingdom of God!

As Christians, we come from a dark place of separation from God, but He has a plan of redemption that is available to each and every person. He brings us out of our past, through our present, that is sometimes characterized by difficulty, to our future as citizens of His everlasting kingdom.

do something

I direct a non-profit orphan relief organization called International Orphan Support (IOS for short). This week, on our facebook page, I posted the picture on the left. We received a lot of interaction on it, so I thought I would also post it here.

This photo was taken at a Siem Reap, Cambodia orphanage by Celine Griffin on March 27, 2004 (documented in the book, “Essentials of Sociology” by James M. Henslin.) These young children spend much of their time drugged and in these nets to simplify their care.

You should take time to read all the comments on our facebook page. People were outraged! The photo evoked a lot of powerful emotions. There was even some discussion about what we should do to the perpetrators, including some great profanity!

But the point of this post is, as ticked off as people were, I think that’s where it ended. While we have no way of knowing the response of the people who commented, the only barometer we have (contributions to or involvement with our organization) did not change. So I would say this: talk is cheap.

I encourage you, not only on this issue but on any issue that is worth caring about: Get emotional enough to get involved.  Anyone can have a strong opinion. Some are passionate enough to actually do something that brings about change. And we need lots of change in the world, don’t we?

Do something.

will ride for hope

You just have to check out what my good friend Travis Johnson is doing RIGHT NOW! He is riding across Cambodia on his bicycle to raise money for People for Care and Learning. I have ridden a a couple of times with Trav and he is a beast on the bike, but this is over the top! Take a look at his blog. watch the video and consider a contribution to the cause.

10 > 20, or why I’ll get better with age

Last week, I told a much younger friend that my life is going too fast, I wish I were younger so I could have more time to accomplish more things. I’ve been thinking about that statement.

The way I figure it, I am about 2/3rds of the way done with my current career path. I’ve been in ministry for 30 years, full time church work for 23 years and serving in the lead role for 20 years. Understanding how our culture embraces youth and relevance, I know I have about 12-15 years left, with anything after 60 years old being in a completely different role.

But I’m VERY optimistic about the foreseeable future.

Here are 10 reasons why the next 10 years are going to be more productive for me than the last 20 years were.

I am wiser. I’ve made a lot of mistakes in the past but I have learned a lot. I don’t plan to repeat my mistakes. I plan to work smarter, be more efficient and accomplish more.

I have more resources. I don’t have much money but I have more than I did when I was 30. Resources are more than money.  Tools, information, technology … it’s only going to get better over the next few years.

I have more connections. I know twice as many people in my field now than I did just a few years ago. Thanks again to technology, I am in contact with lots of people. That will also continue to increase.

I have more credibility. While gray hair doesn’t work well for rock stars, I want to see some silver on my doctor, my airline pilot and my mentor. Just being in the business for this long affords me some street cred. I plan to use it.

My colleagues are getting comparatively younger. I‘m careful, very intentional about connecting with younger and younger leaders. It is very common now for me to engage with colleagues who are younger than my daughter. Thankfully, they do not refer to me as “gramps”. I think these relationships will help me stay relevant and result in increased effectiveness.

I am committed to continue growing. I am reading more and I am dedicated to being a life-long learner. I’ll be smarter in 5 years than I am today. That’s gotta help, right?

I am not as defensive. That’s right, criticism doesn’t bother me as much as it used to. I guess practice makes perfect. I plan to learn more from my critics and make myself a better leader as a result.

My priorities are right. I no longer wrestle with the “putting job before family” dilemma. God is first. Family is second. Ministry, friends, health, fun…these things are aligned for me.

Needs will increase. The world isn’t getting any better. In 2022, if we’re still around, we’ll be in a mess. Strong leaders will be in demand. The way I see it, global crisis is job security for me.

So for me, 10 is greater than 20. I’m going full speed ahead into the future! You with me?

facetime vs. face time

A couple of weeks ago, we picked up our daughter, her husband and our 8 month old granddaughter at the airport. They live in Guatemala and serve as missionaries at an orphanage there.  When both my wife and I held our granddaughter, she very deliberately grabbed our faces with both of her hands while she looked at us. This was a very distinct action on her part and, of course, we loved it. Once she held our faces for a few seconds, she seemed satisfied and started her usual gawking around at what was happening around her.

Our daughter is very faithful to be sure that we get plenty of Skype or video call time with Sophia. About 5 times a week, we get to see her and talk to her. She always has a smile or two for us while we try to connect with her via the Internet.

I think that Sophia was touching our faces just to be sure that we were there, in the flesh, rather than on the computer.  Once she was assured that she could touch us, she was good to go.

This is not a treatise on the evils of virtual connections. In fact, had we not spent all of that time on Internet chat, she would not have even known us.

I am convinced that both electronic and physical connections are necessary.

Now, let’s apply that principle in all of our relationships. If all of our relationships are on a flat screen, there is no human touch. One can’t feel your breath, can’t shake your hand, can’t make love to you. (Virtual or cyber sex is merely self-pleasure with someone watching.) We need human contact. Flesh touching flesh. Too many days without face-to-face human interaction is unhealthy.

Real life does not allow us to be in the same location, all the time, with the people in our lives. Staying connected through technology is a must. If we rely solely on the times when we can touch our friends and family, our relationships will suffer.

We need both! In proper balance, we need to build our relationships using our computers and our skin. One without the other is only half-way living.

a TIM TEBOW signed football auction!

I met Tim Tebow a few months ago and he was kind enough to sign a football for me. I am now leveraging his generosity to raise funds for my favorite charity: International Orphan Support  

I have a $200 initial bid on my authentic TIM TEBOW signed football. I am hoping for a minimum bid of $500! I am not being greedy! The proceeds will go to the children of International Orphan Support. If an auction ensues, it will end at kickoff time on Saturday: 8:00 PM EST. Come on, you want the football and you want to help kids. If you prefer, email me: rick@crosscommunity.cc

Here is the auction: Tebow football auction

 

5 ways to channel your stubbornness

Stubborn people are a pain. I know: I am one, and I’ve caused myself and many others lots of pain as a result.  In fact, I am more stubborn than you are. Yes I am. Yes I am!

While we’ve all seen the negative impact of donkey-like stubbornness, this troublesome characteristic can be molded into a positive trait.

Here are a few ideas as to how:

Check your motives. Many times, our stubbornness stems from feelings of vulnerability or lack of control. If we feel threatened by moving, we will refuse to move. Our insecurities can result in obstinance. Next time you assume a strong position on an issue, ask yourself why you are assuming that position. If it is because you may lose face, consider working on your self-esteem. Your value is not determined by how immoveable you are.

Play the “worse case scenario” game. Explore what bad could potentially happen if you refuse to give up your stance on a particular issue. In most cases, the world will keep spinning even if you agree to change your stance.

Choose which mountain is worth dying on. Not every issue is life or death. You may succeed in refusing to budge but you may lose relationships over it. Which is more important to you? Even if you are right, life is too short to live alone. Don’t allow your bullheadedness to end friendships.

Show a little “give” on something. Find something you have taken a position on, make it something that is not a core value or conviction for you. Now give up your position. Let it go. Go ahead, it won’t kill you.

Hang onto your stubbornness in some areas. Never compromise your integrity or character – for anyone. When someone ties to break you down, dig in and stay committed. But learn when to be stubborn and learn when to compromise.

Come on, let’s control our stubbornness. We will like ourselves better, and so will others.

“nothing” is wrong

I was reading my Next Steps scriptures the other day and came across a new (for me) revelation. Jesus teaches that to do nothing in certain situations is evil and destructive.

Luke 6:9 Then Jesus said to his critics, “I have a question for you. Does the law permit good deeds on the Sabbath, or is it a day for doing evil? Is this a day to save life or to destroy it?”  (NLT)

Jesus was dealing with the incessant insistence by the Pharisees that nothing be done on the Sabbath. They were more interested in religion and rules and regulations that in doing God’s work. In this instance, they would rather Jesus not help a hurting individual than break their man-made rules about the Holy Day.

It appears to me that Jesus is saying that we must choose: “good deeds or evil”; “save a life or destroy it”. There is no middle ground. Theoretically speaking, God wants us to cast aside our adherence to religion if the end result of our religion is damaging to people. We must follow the spirit of the law rather than the letter of the law. Practically speaking, there are no more excuses for apathy and inaction. If you see someone who is hurting and you can help them, you must do so. Doing nothing is wrong.

There are other ways of saying the same thing:

If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor. If an elephant has its foot on the tail of a mouse, and you say that you are neutral, the mouse will not appreciate your neutrality.”   Bishop Desmond Tutu

If anyone, then, knows the good they ought to do and doesn’t do it, it is sin for them.” James 4:17 (NIV)

In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.” Theodore Roosevelt

Work and struggle and never accept an evil that you can change.”  Andre Gide

To my fellow Jesus-followers: if you see something wrong that you can correct, yet you choose to remain uninvolved, your choice to do nothing is sinful.  If you can help someone, if you can make a difference or in any way make the world a better place in which to live, please do so.  Jesus will be very happy with you.